So you know you feel lost in life, but have you ever considered the reasons why?
Doing so will allow you to find your path a lot quicker.
If you don’t know the events that lead you to this point, then you’ll remain lost and confused.
There may be many reasons why you feel lost in life, but here are 5 common and hidden reasons.
I also made a video for those who prefer it:
1. You don’t know your values
Too many people are living a life that isn’t aligned to their values.
In fact, most people have never taken the time to define their values.
How do I know? Just ask yourself what your values are.
If you were like me, you might be struggling to come up with an answer you’re 100% confident in.
We all have things we deem important and valuable.
Unfortunately, authorities push certain values onto us at a young age.
As a result, we do things other people want instead of what we truly want.
We see it all the time. We see people choose careers their parents want instead of something they truly enjoy.
When you continue to live unaligned to your core values, you feel more confused each day. The voice instead your heads gets louder and it becomes harder to lie to yourself.
To live a meaningful and intentional life you love, you need to first understand what’s important to you and why.
A big reason why I felt lost was because I was working a job where I couldn’t exercise my creativity. I had no autonomy.
When I realized that I valued creativity and freedom, I finally understood why I was so dissatisfied.
I was then able to make the right decisions about my career moving forward.
2. You Don’t Have a Life Vision
If you don’t have a big objective in what you want to do with your time here, then chances are, you won’t accomplish much at all.
If you don’t have a clear vision to guide you, then you’re letting other people decide how you spend your time and how you should live.
When I didn’t have a life vision, I was being pulled in a hundred different directions.
I tried to please my parents, my teachers, my bosses, and even people who I barely knew. 🤯
As a result, I felt even more lost in life, burnt out, and completely unmotivated.
If you don’t have a greater vision, it’s time to sit down and create a plan on what you want to do.
Only write down the things you truly want, not what your parents, teachers, friends, and society wants.
To help, I created a free journaling mini-work that’ll help you figure out who you are and provide you with a bit of clarity.
If you make the time to create a life vision, I can guarantee you from personal experience that you’re much more likely to achieve it.
3. You’re living a life imposed onto you by others
I was guilty of this.
I made a lot of decisions to please and impress other people.
Ironically, these were the decisions that made me the most unhappy and unsatisfied.
Your life and how you feel is ultimately your responsibility.
You are responsible for your own happiness.
Whatever happens to you might not be your fault, but how you deal with those situations is your responsibility.
If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to make decisions I feel 100% aligned to.
Even if people judgment me, it’s something I would put up with for the long-term win: a life I love and am excited about.
To help, tap into your values and your vision. You know yourself the best.
4. You’re living and operating on autopilot mode
If you’re mindlessly living life, then it’s time to wake up.
If you want to live an intentional and meaningful life you love, then you can’t be passive about it.
A life you love doesn’t happen to you. You have to make the things you want happen through intentional actions.
Trust me, I know how comfortable it is to live on autopilot mode.
It’s easy to default to scrolling through social media for hours, watching Netflix after work, playing video games when you want to escape from your problems, and more.
But is it worth it in the long run?
I would come home from the job I disliked, mindlessly eat dinner, watch TV for hours, and then go to bed, wondering why I was so dissatisfied and confused.
Looking back, I had no self-awareness.
When you’re conscious of how you’re conducting your life, you can then make the needed changes.
Recommended Resource: How to Design an Intentional Daily Ritual (the antithesis to living on autopilot mode)
5. You have negative beliefs on your capabilities
Chances are, you know what you want to do, but have negative beliefs around your vision.
Maybe you knew what you wanted to do since you were a kid.
For me, I knew I wanted to pursue something creative.
However, growing up in an Asian family meant that anything that wasn’t in the field of science, math, business, or law, was discouraged.
I convinced myself I wanted to be an engineer to please my parents. I felt miserable and lost.
Looking back now, if I followed what I wanted to do ever since I was a kid, I could’ve avoided that period of confusion.
At the same time, I’m glad I went through that because I learned many valuable lessons along the way and met many amazing people in the process.
Now it’s your turn. Did society get in the way of your dreams?
Or did your parents, friends, or teachers tell you that your vision isn’t possible, pushing you to go a different direction?
It’s worth it to revisit those dreams and identify those negative beliefs.
If you don’t tackle your negative beliefs now, then they’ll show up later, preventing you from making your dream life into a reality.
I know what it’s like to be lost in life. It’s frustrating and even feels hopeless at times.
But being lost gives you a chance to redefine what you want and allow you to truly understand what you want out of your life.
It’s something far too little people do. Most people never know what they truly want out of life (and what’s possible).
If you haven’t grabbed the Clarity prompts already, I encourage you to do so. It’s free and it’ll help you start to understand what you want and why.