Do you feel lost and confused?
Maybe you’re stuck in a dead-end job you hate like I once was. Or maybe you’re just not where you want to be in life.
You’re lost and you don’t know your next step forward.
And you’re not alone.
Many people feel lost, including me at one point. Just search it in google and you’ll see hundreds of people asking the same question.
There’s a lot of general advice telling you what to do when you’re lost. Stuff like thinking about what you liked as a kid, going back to school, meditation, etc.
But today, instead of telling you what you should do, I’m going to be sharing with you 7 things not to do when you’re feeling lost.
These are the things that strayed me further from escaping my job and kept me in a situation I wasn’t happy in.
1. Stop Binging Netflix/TV
Have you ever binged Netflix for hours only to regret it afterwards? 🙋♀️🤦♀️
✋ I’ve been there.
One more episode turns into one more season.
I’m not talking to those who watch Netflix in moderation.
I’m speaking to those who are binge-watching Netflix to escape from their current problems.
After coming home from my less than ideal job, I’d be miserable.
However, instead of doing something about it, I would resort to Netflix or TV. It helped numb my mind and push off thoughts about leaving my job.
But doing this didn’t make my situation any better.
It was a just temporary fix.
I’d still wake up dreading work, wishing my week away.
If anything, endlessly consuming content made my situation worse, not better.
2. Getting hopelessly addicted to video games
I remember getting caught up in multiple addicting mobile games.
I thought, hey, it would be the perfect way to relieve stress from my day job.
Oh how wrong I was.
A 1-hour game would turn into semi-allnighters. I’d wake up tired, unmotivated, and cranky.
After playing for hours, I would regret everything.
In reality, I could’ve used that time to work towards my greater goals, learn, or hang out with my loved ones. Instead, I spent it immersed in a fictional world.
Unfortunately, accomplishments in video games do not translate to accomplishments in reality.
Reality is not in your virtual game world. There are accomplishments and achievements waiting for you in real life.
3. Buying things you don’t need
When you’re feeling under the weather, it’s hard to resist going on amazon to buy something you know you don’t need.
Mindlessly shopping makes us feel better in the short-term but will hurt us in the long term.
When I resorted to retail therapy, I would just spend money on useless or detrimental things, such as junk food and other gimmicks that just drained my wallet and added clutter.
Thinking back, I wish I used hundreds of dollars to invest in myself, my future, and my goals.
4. Comparing yourself to others
When you have no idea what you want to do in your life, the last thing you want to do is compare yourself to other people.
When I felt lost, comparing myself to others not only made me feel worse about myself but also confused me.
Because I saw someone doing one thing, I felt I should’ve done the same.
Comparing myself to others pulled in a million different directions. I wasn’t able to focus on myself, my values, and what I truly wanted to do.
Ultimately, you won’t find your true life path by copying someone else’s.
5. Hang around negative people
When they say misery loves company, it’s 100% true.
If you hang out with people who are unhappy with their lives and won’t do anything to change it, then it’s likely you’re going to do the same.
Plus, it’s likely that your negative friends don’t want you to succeed and might even discourage you from your greater goals.
However, if you surround yourself with encouraging people who work towards their goals, then you’re much more likely to make progress with your goals.
6. Playing the victim
Unfortunately, life is unfair. Some people are born with more advantages than others.
You can spend all day getting caught up in that mindset, but it won’t change anything. You’ll still be stuck in your unfavorable situation.
I used to have this mindset as well.
I blamed my bosses, my family, my teachers, and my friends for all the problems I had in my life.
Because I wasn’t from a well-off family, I resented others who were more “successful” than me. I would think X was so successful just because his family had the money to support his endeavors.
And while this might have been true, did it help me escape my situation?
In reality, I just shifted my responsibilities onto them so I didn’t have to take any action. I was escaping from my problems instead of facing them.
7. Not doing anything at all
If you’re stuck in a situation you hate but aren’t doing anything about it, then what’s going to change?
Complaining about how much you hate your job as I did in the past, won’t magically solve your problems.
You’re going to have to take action in order to move the needle.
And if you’re feeling lost and don’t know what to do, then I have a resource that’ll help you.
I put together a comprehensive journaling guide on how you can find clarity on your situation and start taking action towards a life you love.
These are the exact steps I used to figure out my path and escape my unfulfilling job and situation.
What do you struggle with the most when you’re feeling lost? Let me know in the comments below! I’d love to hear you out.