Having a purpose in your life is so powerful.
With a meaningful life purpose, you feel grounded in your everyday life.
Your purpose guides you and allows you to act from a place of intention and mindfulness.
When I was stuck in my unfulfilling job, my life purpose gave me a reason to keep pushing on and got me through my hardest times.
But what happens if you don’t have a life purpose?
In this blog post, I’ll walk you through how to find your life purpose in life. I’ll be sharing my best tips and also help you to avoid the major mistakes I made.
Why having a life purpose is important
I’m sure at some point in your life, you had a purpose you wanted to see through, whether it was big or small.
For me, my life purpose in the past was to find a prestigious corporate job.
That purpose led me to stepping outside my comfort zone, putting in immense effort into my school work, working multiple part-time jobs, and finding internships. Eventually, through all my efforts, I landed a good corporate job.
Having a purpose and internalizing it will eventually lead you to the goal you initially set out for yourself.
However, I realized this purpose wasn’t aligned with what I truly wanted out of life. This realization made me feel extremely lost in life.
During that period, I was unmotivated, confused, and stressed. I didn’t achieve much with my life, as I lost my purpose and direction in life.
I eventually found my true purpose through the tips I’ll soon share with you in this blog post.
But back to what I was saying…I share these two stories because I believe they demonstrate the importance of having a purpose.
When I was had a mission in my life, I was able to take action and get the needle moving. I was excited, passionate, and invigorated. But when I was purposeless, I was stagnant and only grew to hate my life more.
That being said, let’s dive into the tips so you can find your purpose and avoid experiencing what I went through.
1. Know who you are and what your values are
Do you know who you are? What your true values are?
For example, if you’re a person who is creatively inclined, but you try to pursue a career in a non-creative field, then it’s obvious that you won’t be fulfilled.
This is common sense, but it’s hard to tell in the moment. I know this from first hand experience.
For me, I knew that I was a creative person. Ever since I was a kid, I was always drawing, making up stories, building worlds, and so forth. But I ignored those signs, and as a result, I felt lost, confused, and unaligned with my true self.
Getting to know yourself means asking yourself, when were you fulfilled? What makes you happy? What comes easily to you?
When I figured out my values, I realized that I didn’t want to pursue a corporate career. I finally understood that I valued autonomy, I was able to shift my efforts and save me a lot of time and money. (seriously, I was thinking of going back to school to pursue another engineering like degree 😰)
To get started for free, I have guide that’ll help you discover who you are and your life path!
When you know who you are, where your strengths lie, and most importantly, what your values are, you’ll already have most of the puzzle figured out. You don’t waste looking in the wrong areas.
2. Look and think outside your career
A big misconception many people have is that they’ll find their purpose in life ONLY through their careers.
However, this isn’t the case. You can find your purpose in your family, in your hobbies, in your relationships, and more.
Your life isn’t and shouldn’t be centered around your career only.
I personally realized that I didn’t want to center my life around my career. I wanted to have time to spend with my family, pursue my hobbies, travel, and more.
But you might ask…how will I make money and support myself?
My advice is to find a career that aligns with the life you want to live.
For example, if you want to spend more time with your family, find a job that has flexible hours, work part-time, or find a remote position.
You might have to cut down on your spendings, but doing this will allow you to spend more time with your family and live more aligned to your values.
Which brings me to my next point…
3. Identify any limiting beliefs
Chances are, you know deep down what you want to do, but you have many limiting beliefs around these desires. And because of your limiting beliefs, you don’t see these as viable options.
For example, I always knew that I didn’t want to work the traditonal 9-5 job. There’s nothing wrong with it, but it never aligned with my personality and values.
I remember at all my 9-5 internships, I would always hate the office environment and would be excited to leave once the clock hits 5 PM.
However, I believed that making money online was impossible and that I had to settle for a 9-5.
And as you can guess, I hated my 9-5 corporate job.
It wasn’t the people, but the environment and inflexibility of my work schedule, coupled with my 2-hour commute.
It was at that time, I started this blog. Once I made my first few cents, my limiting beliefs were shattered.
Although it was only 5 cents, it showed me that even I can make money online.
Identify any limiting beliefs you have and challenge them. I explain the full step-by-step in my workbook, the Life Clarity Guide.
4. Learn about the person you want to be
It’s hard to decide what you want to do with your life, as there are so many choices. But identifying the person you want to be is a lot easier.
Grab a pencil and a sheet of paper and write down the characteristics you want to have as your highest self.
For me, I know the person I want to be is someone who is:
- Consistent in her efforts & shows up every day
- Confident in who she is
- Works smartly and wisely
- Optimistic and positive
When I embody those traits, then I know I’l attract the results I want no matter what it is.
Once you know who you want to be, you can start to embody her and bring the results she has into your life now.
What you want to do with your life may change, but the person you want to be is less likely to change.
When I go through rough patches, I always ask what my highest self would do. I always feel better after doing this and always manage to come up with a solution.
5. Practice self-reflection and be more self-aware
Being self-aware is a major piece of the puzzle of finding your life purpose.
If I was more self-aware and actually acknowledged how I was feeling about my life, I would’ve realized that I DIDN’T want to work a corporate job.
All the hints and clues were there:
- I didn’t thrive in an office setting
- Rather than being excited to go to work, I was excited to leave
- I loved my design internship where I was able to work flexible hours
- The projects I enjoyed were the ones I had creative control over
- I dreaded my job all the time
However, instead of listening to these feelings, I tried to escape them. I would binge Netflix and live on autopilot mode so I didn’t have to confront these feelings.
But the truth is, the longer you delay confronting your negative feelings AND understanding them, the longer it’ll take for you to find your life purpose.
When I addressed these points, I was able to make decisions and do things that’ll lead me closer to the life I want to live.
Check out the Life Clarity Guide, my intensive workbook, if you’re interested in taking this work to the next level.
Don’t Fixate too hard on finding your life purpose
I know I talked about the importance of having a purpose, but at the same time, you don’t want to force yourself to find purpose in just about anything.
That’s how I ended up pursuing the wrong purpose and path.
Instead, focus on the 5 points I bring up first.
- Understand who you are and what your values are
- Look and think outside your career
- Identify any of your limiting beliefs
- Get to know the person you want to be
- Practice self-reflection and self-awareness
Once you implement these steps, your life purpose will come to you more organically and naturally.
For further help, I created a free guide that’ll help you gain clarity in your life! You can grab it below!